Tuesday, August 08, 2006
wah... there is no such man lor
I got myself indirectly influenced by reader Joseph
who did this personality and compatibility test
, don't try it if you have no time to waste, (I didn't but I didn't know it was that tedious) but it was fun despite. I know now what the man that does not exist, looks like. I tried to put the juicy stuff only, and weeded out the rest, but it is so lengthy: practise skimming.elaine's Compatibility Profile® Summary
Some of your ideal mate's strongest personality characteristics are:
He likes it when he can do something the right way the first time.
When necessary, he can take charge and organize others.
He likes to keep abreast of what's happening in the world.
He sometimes likes to get out and try new things.
Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:
He always tries his best to avoid being irritable, even when he isn't feeling his best.
He is always a generous and supportive friend.
He has an appreciation for life's amusing moments, even when they are sometimes at his own expense!
He generally feels that he has a lot to offer the right person.
Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:
He needs to be able to share his spiritual beliefs with his partner.
Having a strong relationship with God is a key part of his life.
Personal values are important to him.
He believes in spending some of his time working to make the world a better place. Social orientation
Vitality and Security:
He believes in working hard to provide stability and security for a family. You can count on him for the important things in life, like kindness, honesty and reliability. He shares a strong belief that financial security is important but doesn't focus on that goal to the exclusion of all else. He values creating a safe, secure relationship and has a good understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work.
Your ideal mate is the kind of person who wants to support you through life's ups and downs. He will be willing to be there for you emotionally, but he may not always know the best way how. You don't need the perfect man, but you will do best with someone who tries to be sensitive to your feelings, even if he isn't always perfectly attuned to your needs.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Your ideal mate is probably a bit of a loner. He is probably focused on his own life, and doesn't let other people's misfortunes get him down. Friends might describe him as someone who has bigger things on his mind than helping the homeless or donating to charity. He will appreciate that you are your own person and don't expect him to solve your problems. Your relationship will be based more on mutual respect than a need for emotional support.
You will be best matched with someone who is interested to know all the important things about your past, but is equally if not more interested in experiencing the present and building a future together. You are most compatible with someone who believes that communication is vital in creating a healthy relationship.
Your ideal companion is a man who is good at both expressing his thoughts and feelings and listening to others. He's generally patient and accepting of what people say. Friends and family may describe him as the kind of person who sometimes needs a reminder to avoid talking over someone in a conversation or to realize that not everyone in the room necessarily agrees with what he is saying. However, his heart is always in the right place.
You'll be happiest in the long run with a man who understands that not all conflicts can be resolved easily, and that sometimes it's important to stand up for what you believe. He's the kind of person who thinks resolving conflict is important, but making peace isn't worth sacrificing his beliefs. If he thinks he's right, he will probably argue his position, even if it means a disagreement is going to get more heated before it gets resolved.Extraversion
The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people.
He is generally able to find something funny in everyday sights, like uptight waiters or rebellious teenagers. He likes to be entertained with humor, such as pithy observations about passersby, jokes or even unintended puns. He's the kind of person who enjoys being around funny people, either because they ignite his own ability to make people laugh, or just because they keep him smiling about life. His friends see him as someone who has a good sense of humor but who also has a serious side when dealing with important issues.
You'll be happiest with a man who's happy with his life, but nonetheless has the occasional urge to shake things up. He appreciates routine in his everyday activities but likes to strike out and do something new and adventurous every now and then. He's happy planning a quiet weekend at home, but might also throw the schedule out the window if friends invite him on a new adventure, like a hiking expedition or a visit to a new jazz bar.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Your ideal mate likes to sometimes find new ways to deal with old challenges. He can think up creative solutions to a problem but doesn't discount the tried-and-true answers. You are likely to find it frustrating to deal with someone who can never seem to do something the same way twice, but you also chafe at people who can't accept new approaches to problems when the old solutions have stopped working.
Your ideal mate is a man who likes to focus on the things that he thinks are really important in a relationship, such as having the same values or achieving shared goals. He will enjoy spending quality time together, but "overly romantic" is probably not a good description for him. Friends might describe him as the kind of person who thinks anniversaries and Valentine's Day are somewhat silly.
You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. He is competitive and aggressive when the situation warrants it, such as when vying for a promotion at work or playing football with friends - but generally accepts a loss with grace.
You'll be happiest with a man who likes to spend time with old friends and make new ones. Like you, he might not always be the first to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but he is rarely tongue-tied once a conversation is underway. On some days, he might start a conversation with a complete stranger because he feels chatty. Other days, he would rather be alone or just talk to people he knows well already. At parties, he's the type of person who isn't afraid to venture outside his immediate group of friends and meet new people.Openness
Openness refers to a person's willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete.
You are best suited in many ways to the kind of man who has the soul of an artist. He likely seeks out creative outlets, like writing, painting or singing. He's expressive, imaginative and inventive and probably has a distinct sense of style. He is the sort of person who infuses creativity into his surroundings by doing things like adding a few distinctive pieces of art to his home instead of cookie-cutter furniture.
You will be best matched with a man who is eager to find out more about things that interest him. He likes to learn about the world by trying new things, like exotic foods, a far-flung vacation destination or conversations with people from other cultures.
Your ideal mate is knowledgeable and well-read. He values education but isn't consumed by it. He's not the type to do research that would rival a Ph.D. dissertation to decide what to do when a life decision needs to be made, but he probably wouldn't resort to throwing a dart into the Yellow Pages either.Physicality
You'll be most fulfilled by the kind of man who believes sex is an important part of a great relationship, but not the only part. He is looking for physical chemistry with a woman, the kind of spark that comes from genuine romantic attraction. However, he also appreciates that there is more to a "real relationship" than sex.
You are most compatible with a man who takes pride in his looks but isn't defined by them. He believes that things like working out and buying new clothes regularly help him put his best foot forward in social settings. Friends describe him as someone who might put forth extra effort for a special occasion but who won't spend every moment worrying about how he looks. He will appreciate your appearance, but doesn't value looks above all else.
You are best suited to someone who likes to stay active, but also enjoys spending quiet time at home. You are most compatible with someone who makes staying healthy and exercising a normal part of their life, but also enjoys kicking back and relaxing when the time is right. Friends probably describe him as someone who enjoys getting his heart rate up but who's also content to spend a Sunday afternoon on the couch watching football or a favorite movie on TV.Goal orientation
Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment.
Your ideal mate is accomplished academically, but he doesn't overemphasize it. During his school years, he was the type of person who balanced studying with things like extracurricular activities, working or spending time with friends. He wants to have an intellectual connection with his partner, but he's also able to appreciate other things about her, like kindness, character or sense of humor.
You will be happiest with a man who wants to be successful but won't let it compromise all aspects of his life. He sets personal goals and wants to live up to his potential and advance his career. He generally does not judge himself by what others think, but he might sometimes measure his success by things like having the right car or a prestigious job. He generally considers things like family, friends and time to himself more important than achievements.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
You are most compatible with someone who works hard at the office or jobsite, but avoids bringing too much stress and worry home. He likes to stay busy, but doesn't feel the need to fill every moment of every day with some task or chore. He's generally efficient, persistent and productive, but doesn't obsess over making lists of things to do or accomplish. He will appreciate your work ethic and your ability to enjoy the relaxation of downtime as well.
Your ideal mate is probably more interested in having fun and enjoying the "here and now" rather than constantly making extensive plans for how to get the most out of the future. He likes being organized enough to know where he's going and what he's doing on a given day, but planning every last detail of something like a camping trip or a visit to a new city would, frankly, take some of the fun out of the adventure as far as he's concerned.
Your ideal match is someone who is self-assured and well-adjusted. When necessary, he can accept constructive criticism and doesn't feel the need to "kill the messenger." Because he is confident of his own worth, he rarely gets overly defensive. Other people see him as someone who knows his strengths but who doesn't turn a blind eye to his weaknesses.
Your ideal mate generally won't strike back when someone is mad at him. He's patient and does his best to avoid reacting in a way that'll add fuel to the fire. He's the kind of person who will probably understand if you lose your temper on occasion as long as you don't take it to extremes.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
You are best suited to a man who is generally happy and hopeful about what life has to offer. There may be parts of his life he'd like to improve, but he generally has faith that he'll attain his goals. When faced with conflict at work or at home, he rarely overreacts or feels out of control. Friends see him as someone who tries to focus on the positive in good times and bad.
Your ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to voice his opinion and appreciates the fact that you do the same. He won't be surprised if you disagree with him or argue your position. Like you, he may get irritated easily when others disagree with his perspective. However, the two of you will be able to appreciate each other's commitment to being honest rather than "politically correct," and share emphasis on substance over style.
You will be most satisfied with a man who will be able to understand if you sometimes take your grouchiness out on him. Friends and family may know him as someone who has gone through more than his own share of low times himself. He'll understand and be supportive if sometimes your mood seems all-consuming and that you need someone to just sit with you and listen.Values
Your ideal mate is someone whose religious community is an important part of his life. He probably attends services regularly, not just on holidays or for weddings or funerals. He will likely expect his partner to be part of the same type of faith community.
Your ideal mate is a man who has a strong moral compass, but does not necessarily believe that everything done in the name of church or country in our society is correct. He has strong values, but is also an independent thinker. Traditional gender roles and censorship generally strike him as wrong, but so may many of the more extreme liberal attitudes exhibited in pop culture.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Your ideal mate is someone who loves children and wants them to play a significant role in his life. He thinks family is important and is willing to commit his life to having children of his own.
Your ideal mate is the kind of person who cares about helping strangers but who might not spend a lot of his time doing so. He is someone who generally takes care of his friends when they're in need and who might feel a pang of guilt when he doesn't reach out to assist strangers. Others see him as someone who, with a little encouragement, will join efforts to help, whether it's a canned food drive or a charity fundraiser.
Your ideal mate has a good relationship with his family, but it's not perfect. They enjoy talking or spending time together but do have occasional conflict, and there could be certain disagreements that have never been resolved.Personality Profile
You have a natural enthusiasm for the activities you prefer. Because of your enthusiasm, you may forget that others have different wants and needs.
Your primary social strategy is making things happen and happen now. Usually very active, you thrive on challenge. When the going gets tough, you get going.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
Not having a climate of challenges and competition may cause you to create such a climate. You perform best under pressure, and may assume that others want the same...your assumption is not always true.
You are active in the things you do and in your communication. Your rapid mental activity becomes apparent when, rather than listening to others, you will be thinking of what you might say next.
Your high ego traits coupled with impatience may have others read you as arrogant at times. This is only appreciated by others when they understand that you need quick results, challenges and competition.
You will take issue and not shy away from confrontation when others disagree with how you feel or think.
In social situations, you prefer variety, adventure and the unusual. You may lose interest if you feel a situation is becoming routine. As a result, you must be kept busy and involved with making things happen.
You have a high interest in the new, the unusual and the adventurous. You may also be curious and have a wide range of interests, preferring an ever-changing environment.
You love challenges and competition. Those who know you may consider you to be a high risk-taker.
You love challenges and competition. At the same time, you must realize and appreciate that others may not share your zest for challenges and competition.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people.
You are usually enthusiastic about activities and planning.
You have an excellent sense of humor and tend to see humor in events spontaneously.
You generally dislike the "status quo," and are exhilarating to be around.
You are optimistic and tend to make others feel good about themselves.
You are skilled at finding "win-win" solutions when conflicts arise.
You often come up with creative solutions when faced with common problems.
You are very good at communicating with others and seeing their point of view.
You like to initiate new activities.
You like to take action and see that things get done.
You tend to enjoy life and share that enjoyment with others.
You often have innovative ideas.
You meet new people easily and are good at making them feel welcome.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed
You may want:
Others to behave with the same sense of urgency.
Many activities, so there is never a dull moment.
Others to "catch up" to your speed of doing things.
Others to work and play as hard as you do.
Freedom from many rules and regulations and the ability to write your own rules.
No close supervision--you don't want people to hang over your shoulder.
An outlet to vent your emotions frequently.
Exposure and recognition by those who really appreciate your results and achievements.
Thanks for staying and skimming till here.